Of course, I sometimes fall off my throne ( but I know how to get on it again )
I was having lunch with a friend of mine who I hadn’t seen for years. And she asked me about my workshop in London.
“So what are you gonna do in your seminar ?”
I told her it is my passion to help women sit on their throne again so each woman can connect with her inner Queen and live from SELFAUTHORITY AND SELF LOVE. Because this has been my own journey in this life….
SELF AUTHORITY starts first of all with KNOWING your TRUE SELF
From this awareness, NOBODY CAN TELL YOU WHO YOU ARE NOBODY CAN PRESSURE YOU INTO DOING THINGS THAT DO NOT VIBRATE WITH YOUR TRUE SELF. AND NOBODY CAN HOLD YOU BACK FROM DOING SOMETHING YOU KNOW YOU ARE GOOD AT.
WHEN YOU LIVE FROM SELF
LOVE YOU ARE LOYAL TO YOUR TRUE SELF
YOU STOP PLEASING PEOPLE
YOU START LISTENING TO YOUR BODY (which is a perfect guide to tell you “yes” when situations are healing and uplifting for you and “No when situations are toxic for you)
Being A PEOPLE PLEASER I did not know any self- authority or self- love.
That meant I did not listen to my body when it would silently scream “Noooo, this situation or this person is toxic for you. Don’t do it !!!!! Which meant I would often be left broken-hearted and would naively ask myself: “So what happened?”
My heart was always wide open (because I love people) and I thought my goodness and love would be rewarded by their goodness and love. And if they treated me nasty, I would even open my heart wider for them thinking LOVE would heal everything.
And yes, I still believe Love heals everything.
Yet, now I know LOVE is not only kind and gentle.
TRUE LOVE can also be ruthless.
Because True love comes from TRUTH.
Love is NOT letting people WALK OVER YOU and TAKE YOUR SPACE.
Love invites you to TAKE YOUR SPACE and HOLD IT!
I call it ‘sit on your throne’ like a queen (king) in life.
I had to learn how to sit on my throne.
If someone would be nasty to me, my inner child would become afraid and I would simply freeze and leave my body.
I would be a talking head.
Because of the fear, I started pleasing people (people-pleasing always comes from the thought that the world is not a safe place and that you have to please to be accepted)
And then I met this beautiful wise lady Katrien Laurens from Life projects. She helped me to ANCHOR my big heart in my hips and in mother earth. From living in my head and believing all the stories my mind told me, I evolved to breathing and living in my hips and TAKING MY SPACE ON EARTH.
(it didn’t happen overnight…. I had to go through tremendous fears, anger and sadness that had been stored in my body) But Katrien was always there to help me trust this inner journey. I acknowledge her for her greatness and being the Queen of the Queens.
The moment I started breathing and living in my hips. My heartfelt was more safe. And bit by bit I could sit on my throne like a queen. Sometimes in awkward situations, I would fall off my throne and jump into my head again.
Today more and more I can take my space and STAY on my throne when the going gets tough! And when do fall off my throne I KNOW IMMEDIATELY HOW TO GET ON IT AGAIN.
Which means I DON T STAY IN MY STORY, I FEEL